As I have earlier said in one of my previous post that it was during the last 4-5 years that I have known how to face the world and also how to manage a family (which I think I have done to a great extent). This is managing and planning accordingly that all the important purposes in the life never gets halted and the wheels of the family keeps on moving smoothly. This needs the cooperation of the whole family and the members. I have learnt these things from the stories, accounts, diaries and old documents of my grandfather, who besides working in a small private company from the age of 20, managed his expences and savings to build a house of his own, with the cooperation of my grandmother, both sacrificed many things of their life to give his son and the next generation a somewhat good life than them.
One main thing to do to manage a house or family needs is a good management policy for the home budget and to spend accordingly, saving as much you need, keeping in mind the needs of the family and the members in the next 5 to 10 years and plan accordingly.
I have mainly followed this policy and have seen that it works. Also there is a saying that "What good or bad we have done in our past is the result we are reaping today. And what we will do (correct or wrong) today, will affect in our future." So, if we save and manage in the right way today, that will going to help us in the coming years.
Management is not only needed in big offices or companies only, it is needed in the smallest of the houses also, even for whom who just earns Rs. 100/-. Because I have seen many people who nevers plan or manage their money or anything and is much spendthrift, they time of crises, get tensed and worried and finally have to borrow money from their friends and relatives, and sometimes from money lenders who charge them a heave interest for that.
So, my thought is that whatever we are earning today must be spend in the right way (not be spendthreft) , to control our expences, and also save a little amount in our own way whichever we think (from man to man) will be better for us, that could help our family in time of problem or urjency.
Friday, May 29, 2009
My dreams in life
Since my childhood, I have many dreams like all people had in their life. But have not seen any of my so called big dreams fulfilled, however, some of my smaller dreams have been fulfilled, better late than never. For this I thank God for hearing my words and fulfilling my dreams.
In this phase of my life I have 2 of my very big dreams, which I very much need the help of my God for fulfilling those dreams. The two big dreams are (1)To get married to my dream girl and (2) To build a house of my own money, with my & my spouse's ideas (MY DREAM HOUSE IN MY DREAM CITY - KOLKATA).
These are my dreams which I would like to fulfill in my life, and if these get fulfilled then all the dreams that I have seen and that have not get fulfilled will be nullified. I would like my first dream to be fulfilled in my coming few years and the next big one in the next 10 to 20 years of my coming life.
Let's see and wishing that God will help me in completing and fulfilling my these 2 dreams which I have got now in my mind.
In this phase of my life I have 2 of my very big dreams, which I very much need the help of my God for fulfilling those dreams. The two big dreams are (1)To get married to my dream girl and (2) To build a house of my own money, with my & my spouse's ideas (MY DREAM HOUSE IN MY DREAM CITY - KOLKATA).
These are my dreams which I would like to fulfill in my life, and if these get fulfilled then all the dreams that I have seen and that have not get fulfilled will be nullified. I would like my first dream to be fulfilled in my coming few years and the next big one in the next 10 to 20 years of my coming life.
Let's see and wishing that God will help me in completing and fulfilling my these 2 dreams which I have got now in my mind.
The most tensed days of my life
From my early childhood , I have been a guy who becomes very tensed whenever any problems arises, or you can say a problem which had not arrived yet but just thinking of it in advance.
In my life, the most tensed days of my life were the days when I gave my final exams and the time when we awaits the results to be out. Although during my junior school I was a brilliant student, I was not as worried as I was during my next phase of my schooling (Senior school). I kept deteiorating in my studies and was in a very poor condition by the time I was in my 10th, I had done very badly in my prelims. After giving the Board exams I was more restless and daily see what I have done in my paper and counting that whether I will get passing marks or not. ON the result day I was not aware that the reselt has been declared, when my father had gone to office and returned back and said that the result was out and Asking what I have done in my exams. I got much frightened. Then he said that I have passed , then only I become normal. Next was When I gave my 12th, it was the same things I was doing that I have done before, in my 10th results. This time also I was not aware that the results was out. This time one of my best friend called me and said that I have got 75% marks. I cannot believe what he said because I only know what I have done in my exams. I with my father, then, went to school that whether my friend had seen the result of the boy sitting before me as he was a topper of our school. Then after seeing result that I have got pass (not with 75%) but with good markd than I have thought. These were the most testing times of my life.
In my life, the most tensed days of my life were the days when I gave my final exams and the time when we awaits the results to be out. Although during my junior school I was a brilliant student, I was not as worried as I was during my next phase of my schooling (Senior school). I kept deteiorating in my studies and was in a very poor condition by the time I was in my 10th, I had done very badly in my prelims. After giving the Board exams I was more restless and daily see what I have done in my paper and counting that whether I will get passing marks or not. ON the result day I was not aware that the reselt has been declared, when my father had gone to office and returned back and said that the result was out and Asking what I have done in my exams. I got much frightened. Then he said that I have passed , then only I become normal. Next was When I gave my 12th, it was the same things I was doing that I have done before, in my 10th results. This time also I was not aware that the results was out. This time one of my best friend called me and said that I have got 75% marks. I cannot believe what he said because I only know what I have done in my exams. I with my father, then, went to school that whether my friend had seen the result of the boy sitting before me as he was a topper of our school. Then after seeing result that I have got pass (not with 75%) but with good markd than I have thought. These were the most testing times of my life.
Tuesday, April 28, 2009
My most difficult time of my life
There is some time in everyone's life when he would call it the most difficult time of his life.
I too have the most difficult time of my life when I lost my father unexpetedly and untimely. It was in August 2004 when this tragic incident happened with us which had created a large vaccum in our family, especially in my & my sister's life (even felt today by us). That night was the worst night of my life where my father was lying dead and I could not got a moment to sit and cry beside him, because if I cry how could I console my family. So I made myself strong (which I was not from the inside) and consoled my family. We were not at all ready for this, and it was in just in a matter few minutes that our whole world was shattered in a darkness, where many discission were to take and, and for every discission there were many advices (correct and wrong), from which we have to take the right discission, otherwise the future would not be as we expect.
I thank to my (the then) legal advisor who helped us in that time to overcome the then major problem of our family.
But at that time, I was the only male member of my family and so all the responsibilities automatically came upon my shoulders (as before that I was not at all serious about my life and my future and always escape from the responsibilities that were given to me), and so thereon I have to shoulder the responsibilities of my family, and take the right and correct discissions for them. Truely, in the beginning I faced many difficulties in handling the then problems and taking the correct discissions, but as it is a saying that "where there is a way there is a will". I steadied myself and along with my sister studied the problems which came in our family in detail and took the correct discission for it as there was nobody else to help us. But slowly and gradually we paved our way from that difficult time of life but the loss (of my father) is still felt by us very much.
Sorry........ for making you bored, by telling my most worst days of my life........but as I did not tell it to anyone , so I am writing it down.....about as I have gone through that time and faced it..............
I too have the most difficult time of my life when I lost my father unexpetedly and untimely. It was in August 2004 when this tragic incident happened with us which had created a large vaccum in our family, especially in my & my sister's life (even felt today by us). That night was the worst night of my life where my father was lying dead and I could not got a moment to sit and cry beside him, because if I cry how could I console my family. So I made myself strong (which I was not from the inside) and consoled my family. We were not at all ready for this, and it was in just in a matter few minutes that our whole world was shattered in a darkness, where many discission were to take and, and for every discission there were many advices (correct and wrong), from which we have to take the right discission, otherwise the future would not be as we expect.
I thank to my (the then) legal advisor who helped us in that time to overcome the then major problem of our family.
But at that time, I was the only male member of my family and so all the responsibilities automatically came upon my shoulders (as before that I was not at all serious about my life and my future and always escape from the responsibilities that were given to me), and so thereon I have to shoulder the responsibilities of my family, and take the right and correct discissions for them. Truely, in the beginning I faced many difficulties in handling the then problems and taking the correct discissions, but as it is a saying that "where there is a way there is a will". I steadied myself and along with my sister studied the problems which came in our family in detail and took the correct discission for it as there was nobody else to help us. But slowly and gradually we paved our way from that difficult time of life but the loss (of my father) is still felt by us very much.
Sorry........ for making you bored, by telling my most worst days of my life........but as I did not tell it to anyone , so I am writing it down.....about as I have gone through that time and faced it..............
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