Friday, May 28, 2010

Some Social Problems of Love Life in India

In the recent time there are some news and views which have led me to write this blog. Folks this blog is for those who fall in love and are hurt feeling that they have lost their love in this life.

I have heard many stories and met some friends of mine, who tell me that they are at a stand point in their life where they had to choose between their love and her parents. Meaning that they had to surrender to their parents to get themself an arranged marriage. The irony of the indian traditional societal daughter or a son is that they fall in love, without feeling the boundaries of societies, but when the time comes where the crucial decision needs to be made, most of them surrender in front of the blackmailing talks of family members and relatives about their reputation if the marriage were to be intercaste.

And in some cases it is still a hit on the reputation even if its a love marriage, depending on the constraints of the society. The child is not happy marrying the person who is selected for him/her, which is at the compromise of his/her love, and person who gets wed with him/her, is also not happy as he/she is always knowing that his/her partner (the one who lost his/her love) is always looking for the old partner in the new face.

Eventually after a spell of a few years the person gets convinced that you dont always get what you want out life and you need to love what you get - and that becomes the thumbrule. For some, thumbrules are not formed and they continue to live in the agony of loss of love...

Some of them elope and thats considered a sin. If the marriage was allowed which would have only yielded a happy couple, while the families could be adjusting with each other, it would have made so many things simpler. This simple solution is thought over a million times and rejected to yield a whole new world of impossiblites for the ones who fell in love. The fight then begins.

These individuals who would have fallen prey to this societal constraints decide to ensure that their kids won't to have go through the trauma. While they realise when eventually the time comes for the marriage of their kids, they would have also got so woven into the cloth of the socitey that they are ones who impose conditions again. The circle hence repeats again..

This is what is described as THE VISCIOUS CIRCLE OF LIFE.

Someon, somewhere in this tree needs to initiate a route out of this circle to ensure a whole new dimension gets added to the way the tree then grows.

Are you a part of the same circle? Have you fallen in love? Does this apply to you? Do comment.....

Thursday, May 27, 2010

Cherishing the old days together with friends

Today while I was going through the old albums and photos of my friends and relatives, I thought what a nice time was that (old days) when we have nothing to worry and would have spend and enjoy most of the time together. But as time has passed, today it is very difficult to enjoy that time, only when we get in contact with those old mates through a call, we would cherish those funny and really good moments and miss those good times we spend together. Sometimes it feels that it would have been nice if the time stops there, but unfortunately it would not to be happen.

Today, I find it very diffucult to be in touch with my old friends as everyone is busy in building his carreer and his life. The only way to be in touch is the mobile,or by emails,etc. thanks to the technology. What would have happen if we have born one generation back, then what were the possibilities of contacting with the friends who are far from our city?

Inspite of the technology, I find sometimes difficult to contact with them, together. It has been a long time when all of my friends has sat together and have cherished those happy and funny days together, which have gone by and are now just in our memories.

I pray to God to give some moment when we can be together and again live those childhood days. Hoping that it will be soon..............

Thursday, April 29, 2010

Power of Positive Attitude

During my working with the Ebiz.com Pvt. Ltd., Although I haven't gain anything from it in terms of success, but one thing I have learnt from it is the positive attitute and the mindset of the people. This positive attitud3e has helped me in my life in what I am today.

Positive attitude helps to cope more easily with the daily affairs of life. It brings optimism into your life, and makes it easier to avoid worry and negative thinking. If you adopt it as a way of life, it will bring constructive changes into your life, and makes them happier, brighter and more successful. With a positive attitude you see the bright side of life, become optimistic and expect the best to happen. It is certainly a state of mind that is well worth developing and strengthening.
A positive attitude makes a great change in my life. It also taught me to control my anger and to look to the positive attitude which lead me to happiness and success.

A positive attitude leads to happiness and success and can change your whole life. If you look at the bright side of life, your whole life becomes filled with light. This light affects not only you and the way you look at the world, but also your whole environment and the people around you. If it is strong enough, it becomes contagious.

Negative attitude says: you cannot achieve success.
Positive attitude says: You can achieve success.


If you have been exhibiting a negative attitude and expecting failure and difficulties, it is now the time to change the way you think. It is time to get rid of negative thoughts and behavior and lead a happy and successful life. Why not start today? If you have tried and failed, it only means that you have not tried enough.

Positive thinking is a mental attitude that admits into the mind thoughts, words and images that are conductive to growth, expansion and success. It is a mental attitude that expects good and favorable results. A positive mind anticipates happiness, joy, health and a successful outcome of every situation and action. Whatever the mind expects, it finds.

Not everyone accepts or believes in positive thinking. Some consider the subject as just nonsense, and others scoff at people who believe and accept it. Among the people who accept it, not many know how to use it effectively to get results. Yet, it seems that many are becoming attracted to this subject, as evidenced by the many books, lectures and courses about it. This is a subject that is gaining popularity.

It is quite common to hear people say: "Think positive!", to someone who feels down and worried. Most people do not take these words seriously, as they do not know what they really mean, or do not consider them as useful and effective. How many people do you know, who stop to think what the power of positive thinking means?

But believe me, if you have a positive attitude in your life and try to achieve what you want then it is easily possible that you will succeed in your live. Positive attitude can do miracles in anyone's life.....

Bengali About To Be Announced The Sweetest Language In The World?

“Bengali is the world’s sweetest language” and “Bengali, the world’s Sweetest Language” are the two headlines you must have come across over the last two days of your web surfing and you could not stop thinking, really? Well, I am not here to tell you once again that Bengali is the world’s sweetest language. If you are a Bengali, chances are that you have already received tweets, SMSs or Orkut/Facebook updates proclaiming that Bengali (বাংলা) has been declared the sweetest language in the world.

Here is the SMS that I received:

130 crores people in the world sing their national anthem in Bengali language.
125 crores in Chineese language and 94 crores in English.
BENGALI is on top not only because yesterday UNESCO declared that Bengali is the sweetest language of the world (2nd and 3rd sweetest being Spanish and Dutch).
So we should feel proud for our language.
Send this SMS to all your friends…
Feel proud to be a BENGALI......



Religious and regional jingoism aside, if true, this is indeed reason to celebrate for all bongs across the world. The online poll in question was conducted by UNESCO a couple of months back. However, I couldn’t find any official word on this matter. According to TOI, the official announcement may come on Rabindranath Tagore’s (the first Asian Nobel laureate) 150th birth anniversary in May (পঁচিশে বৈশাখ ).

Bengali is one of the major languages of India, and the main language in the state of West Bengal in eastern India. It is the mother tongue of the Bengali community of India, i.e. the community to which I belong.

Bengali is also spoken in the beautiful country of Bangladesh, a neighbouring country of India. In fact, in Bangladesh Bengali is virtually the sole spoken language, and enjoys the status of the National Language.

I have always been so proud that I have such a sweet as well as rich language as my mother language. And today that pride got a huge booster.

However, my pride in and love for my language will never make me look down upon any other language of this world. Rather, I have (and will always have) a huge respect for every spoken language in this world, as each of them has enriched the human civilization in one way or the other.

PROUD TO BE A BENGALI...............