Some Social Problems of Love Life in India

In the recent time there are some news and views which have led me to write this blog. Folks this blog is for those who fall in love and are hurt feeling that they have lost their love in this life.

I have heard many stories and met some friends of mine, who tell me that they are at a stand point in their life where they had to choose between their love and her parents. Meaning that they had to surrender to their parents to get themself an arranged marriage. The irony of the indian traditional societal daughter or a son is that they fall in love, without feeling the boundaries of societies, but when the time comes where the crucial decision needs to be made, most of them surrender in front of the blackmailing talks of family members and relatives about their reputation if the marriage were to be intercaste.

And in some cases it is still a hit on the reputation even if its a love marriage, depending on the constraints of the society. The child is not happy marrying the person who is selected for him/her, which is at the compromise of his/her love, and person who gets wed with him/her, is also not happy as he/she is always knowing that his/her partner (the one who lost his/her love) is always looking for the old partner in the new face.

Eventually after a spell of a few years the person gets convinced that you dont always get what you want out life and you need to love what you get - and that becomes the thumbrule. For some, thumbrules are not formed and they continue to live in the agony of loss of love...

Some of them elope and thats considered a sin. If the marriage was allowed which would have only yielded a happy couple, while the families could be adjusting with each other, it would have made so many things simpler. This simple solution is thought over a million times and rejected to yield a whole new world of impossiblites for the ones who fell in love. The fight then begins.

These individuals who would have fallen prey to this societal constraints decide to ensure that their kids won't to have go through the trauma. While they realise when eventually the time comes for the marriage of their kids, they would have also got so woven into the cloth of the socitey that they are ones who impose conditions again. The circle hence repeats again..

This is what is described as THE VISCIOUS CIRCLE OF LIFE.

Someon, somewhere in this tree needs to initiate a route out of this circle to ensure a whole new dimension gets added to the way the tree then grows.

Are you a part of the same circle? Have you fallen in love? Does this apply to you? Do comment.....

Cherishing the old days together with friends

Today while I was going through the old albums and photos of my friends and relatives, I thought what a nice time was that (old days) when we have nothing to worry and would have spend and enjoy most of the time together. But as time has passed, today it is very difficult to enjoy that time, only when we get in contact with those old mates through a call, we would cherish those funny and really good moments and miss those good times we spend together. Sometimes it feels that it would have been nice if the time stops there, but unfortunately it would not to be happen.

Today, I find it very diffucult to be in touch with my old friends as everyone is busy in building his carreer and his life. The only way to be in touch is the mobile,or by emails,etc. thanks to the technology. What would have happen if we have born one generation back, then what were the possibilities of contacting with the friends who are far from our city?

Inspite of the technology, I find sometimes difficult to contact with them, together. It has been a long time when all of my friends has sat together and have cherished those happy and funny days together, which have gone by and are now just in our memories.

I pray to God to give some moment when we can be together and again live those childhood days. Hoping that it will be soon..............

Power of Positive Attitude

During my working with the Ebiz.com Pvt. Ltd., Although I haven't gain anything from it in terms of success, but one thing I have learnt from it is the positive attitute and the mindset of the people. This positive attitud3e has helped me in my life in what I am today.

Positive attitude helps to cope more easily with the daily affairs of life. It brings optimism into your life, and makes it easier to avoid worry and negative thinking. If you adopt it as a way of life, it will bring constructive changes into your life, and makes them happier, brighter and more successful. With a positive attitude you see the bright side of life, become optimistic and expect the best to happen. It is certainly a state of mind that is well worth developing and strengthening.
A positive attitude makes a great change in my life. It also taught me to control my anger and to look to the positive attitude which lead me to happiness and success.

A positive attitude leads to happiness and success and can change your whole life. If you look at the bright side of life, your whole life becomes filled with light. This light affects not only you and the way you look at the world, but also your whole environment and the people around you. If it is strong enough, it becomes contagious.

Negative attitude says: you cannot achieve success.
Positive attitude says: You can achieve success.

If you have been exhibiting a negative attitude and expecting failure and difficulties, it is now the time to change the way you think. It is time to get rid of negative thoughts and behavior and lead a happy and successful life. Why not start today? If you have tried and failed, it only means that you have not tried enough.

Positive thinking is a mental attitude that admits into the mind thoughts, words and images that are conductive to growth, expansion and success. It is a mental attitude that expects good and favorable results. A positive mind anticipates happiness, joy, health and a successful outcome of every situation and action. Whatever the mind expects, it finds.

Not everyone accepts or believes in positive thinking. Some consider the subject as just nonsense, and others scoff at people who believe and accept it. Among the people who accept it, not many know how to use it effectively to get results. Yet, it seems that many are becoming attracted to this subject, as evidenced by the many books, lectures and courses about it. This is a subject that is gaining popularity.

It is quite common to hear people say: "Think positive!", to someone who feels down and worried. Most people do not take these words seriously, as they do not know what they really mean, or do not consider them as useful and effective. How many people do you know, who stop to think what the power of positive thinking means?

But believe me, if you have a positive attitude in your life and try to achieve what you want then it is easily possible that you will succeed in your live. Positive attitude can do miracles in anyone's life.....

Bengali About To Be Announced The Sweetest Language In The World?

“Bengali is the world’s sweetest language” and “Bengali, the world’s Sweetest Language” are the two headlines you must have come across over the last two days of your web surfing and you could not stop thinking, really? Well, I am not here to tell you once again that Bengali is the world’s sweetest language. If you are a Bengali, chances are that you have already received tweets, SMSs or Orkut/Facebook updates proclaiming that Bengali (বাংলা) has been declared the sweetest language in the world.

Here is the SMS that I received:

130 crores people in the world sing their national anthem in Bengali language.
125 crores in Chineese language and 94 crores in English.
BENGALI is on top not only because yesterday UNESCO declared that Bengali is the sweetest language of the world (2nd and 3rd sweetest being Spanish and Dutch).
So we should feel proud for our language.
Send this SMS to all your friends…
Feel proud to be a BENGALI......



Religious and regional jingoism aside, if true, this is indeed reason to celebrate for all bongs across the world. The online poll in question was conducted by UNESCO a couple of months back. However, I couldn’t find any official word on this matter. According to TOI, the official announcement may come on Rabindranath Tagore’s (the first Asian Nobel laureate) 150th birth anniversary in May (পঁচিশে বৈশাখ ).

Bengali is one of the major languages of India, and the main language in the state of West Bengal in eastern India. It is the mother tongue of the Bengali community of India, i.e. the community to which I belong.

Bengali is also spoken in the beautiful country of Bangladesh, a neighbouring country of India. In fact, in Bangladesh Bengali is virtually the sole spoken language, and enjoys the status of the National Language.

I have always been so proud that I have such a sweet as well as rich language as my mother language. And today that pride got a huge booster.

However, my pride in and love for my language will never make me look down upon any other language of this world. Rather, I have (and will always have) a huge respect for every spoken language in this world, as each of them has enriched the human civilization in one way or the other.

PROUD TO BE A BENGALI...............

5 year plan of the Indians

I just came across this data, while surfing, that Indian 11th 5 year plan, has a large amount of data, cut, copy and paste from the first one. I really wonder if laying 5 year plans for a country is going to help (it definitely will, but is there a better alternative), for, when I have been for innumerous talks, and when i questioned people as to their plans are the next 5 years,or just say for the next 3 years, More than 99% of them sit blank.

My dear friends, entire youth fraternity in colleges of this century, is not having a plan of action for themself for the next 5 years, what do we speak about having a 5year plan for the country. I do not say, 5 year plan for a country should not be there. It does help infrastructure, technology and upliftment of places and people. But, more importantly, my stress is on the fact that, if there is 35% youth (100% of future of our country) population in our country,and if they have a plan of action, with each one deciding plan of action for their studies sector, profession sector, contribution to society sector, charity sector etc. Trust me! its not my intuition alone that speaks at this moment, but logical thought process is also uniting with this thought, that our country will develop much sooner and be much more organised in every sense.

I totally agree, and I am not a paranoid who says 5 year exact plan is easy to layout. But lets atleast set it for the next couple of years. We stop planning, because of the no. of failures of our plans we would have gone through during our school days in putting down our time tables and not being able to keep up to it. Lets resolve atleast at this point, that we (the readers of this blog and people who will get to know about this through you as you would promote this to them) shall have a plan of action for different sectors and stick to it, atleast for the next two years.

Majority Youth of india is totally going random. Most youth have this answer when i ask them : "So what are you planning for future?". The answer is :"I am yet to plan". or "I am not sure". Or "let me see". or "I have still not given a thought". My dear friend you are already 20-25 years old and you have still not given a thought. Kudos to people who have an action plan. But others, its time to open your eyes. Just see the youth of the countries of the east. They think for their future beforehand, when they are in their school, and that is why they are much progressed and developed than us. Think.........

My simplest statement/slogan/quote that would sum up everything -
"If the people of country have a plan for the next 5 years, country is planned for next 5 years". Any other plan is going to be a bonus.

And if we plan and think properly for our future, then it will be much easy to handle the problems that will come in our way. This will also make our life more easy and happy. So Just try to plan for the future from today only. Make a 5 or say 3 year plan for yourself.

Life after school and college days

Today, when I was coming in front of my old school, where there was the "Result declaration day" today. On seeing this, my mind went back to my old days when we used to be very happy and tense also on the days of our final result daclaration. Tension of marks got and excitement of promotion to the new class.

For many college students, graduation and thereafter is the worst time of your twenties. You trade late night parties for early morning commutes and mom and dad’s monthly allowance is, well, gone. But growing up doesn’t have to be miserable and mundane; it can actually be rewarding and fun. Nine long years have passed since I have left the school, but it seems to be just of yesterday. I also have gone through this time of my life where everything I used to do or try becomes very difficult for me. Sometimes life tests us, our confidence and ability. This is the time of our life when we have to give these tests to gain confidence in life. And the result of these tests which life takes, gives us the oppurtunity to get the next promotion in life to the next level.

But after this great phase of college also goes by and after that the busy schedule of college timings, class works, exams and results is no more. Spending most of the time with parents, new releases, late night roaming, computer games, parties, and sports channels make the daily routine. This leisure reminds me of “An idle man’s mind is a devil’s workshop”. Anything not like devil and Devine, but an idle brain makes ourselves get rejuvenated and brings our hidden thoughts and interests into light. Only when the mind is still and there is no anticipation creation comes. As long as you are looking forward to an experience, you are pursuing an achievement.

If we look around, and search for our old collegues and friends,the city seems deserted of them as they are wandering of obvious reasons. Most of them have already joined, many are in a vacation, and some are waiting for the call from the company and to my sorrow few are still searching and they were in a hunt.” A hunt for a purpose, A hunt for knowledge, A hunt for the stomach, A hunt for a career and a hunt for a life”. At times my inner voices used to ask me “Had I become lonely and alone?”. With a bit of pain I answer by saying that my days were transformed from my long chats to limited, my friendly touches to mystic imaginations, my distant walks to a simple exercise, my longest rides to a few kilometers, my admission name into the alumina list and my text books to home decorators…………

A small sort of pain and unhappiness rouses in my humble heart after thinking all these things but it still could not prevent me from doing so. Mean while a phone call from a benevolent friend, SMS saying “I MISS U A LOT ” from a classmate, an E-MAIL from a much waited friend,a different news from the college ………makes things vivacious and lively and put me back into elegant school/college life.
Spending days with all these vulnerable memories and hoping for a bright future ahead with my new job……………. I put my hand on my naïve cheeks looking into the galaxy starting my imagination “WOW!!!!!!! HOW NICE THE COMING DAYS GONNA BE………..”

My feeling for the friends

Most people walk in and out of our life. But only True friends leave footprints in our heart.
Whether we realize it or not, everyone we know is very special to us.
When we look back on our younger years, we will remember the people who went to with us, the people who made us laugh, the people who hung out with us when nobody else would, and the people who made our lives much better simply by being a part of it.
There may be somebody who is thinking about you RIGHT NOW and wishing that you were around. That's the wonderful thing about friendship-you always feel loved and cared about.
The most important thing to remember is... Always appreciate the friends that you have.
A fight may come and go very easily, but a friendship could last forever.
For every second spent in anger, a minute of happiness is wasted.

There are many people who comes in our entire life, but the one that left their footprints in our minds and hearts are the very special one.

They gave us some reason to laugh, cry, joy, and happiness. Friends are the only one whom we can share everything, as everything is not possible to share with our family also, but it can be done with the true friends, because they can read our minds and give us good decision in our life.

Childhood friends are forever! Examples of such friendships are galore where a childhood friend has forsaken everything for his friend. Such friendships never blossom as we mature and grow old. The friendship that develops between two friends in school or through living in the same locality, often goes on to become everlasting and is never broken by any outside force. I am still in touch with my childhood friend from school and he is like a pillar of support to me. The bond that forms between two childhood friends is unbreakable. Such friendships are intuitive, where one friend understands the mind of the other.

Arrording to Lord Buddha on friendship, "A true friend helps us when we're in need. They protect us. A good friend is a refuge in life. A friend who is constantly there no matter we're facing happiness or sorrow or trouble in our lives. We share secrets in friendship and the friend will not betray our secrets - in fact, good friends warn us when we're treading on dangerous roads. This sort of a friend is a gift."

So, always trust your friend and never forget them as they are the one who will always be by your side till the entire life.

Ego Kills Love - So be a Egokiller

Ego Kills Love! Lets kill the EGO before it kills Love...!!!
A masterpiece story I came across, For those of you, who have already read this one, I am sure you will agree with me, that its worth reinforcing a thousand times. Its the story about the hypothetical island that existed, which was home for all different feelings that exist on the face of the earth today. Let me start in a classical story telling way "Once upon a time....

Once upon a time..., there was an island called FEELINGS ISLAND, which was home to all types of feelings. Joy, Love, Ego, care, Shame, Hatred, Magnanimity, generosity, kindness, shyness, audacity, disgust, frustration, jealousy, atheism etc. All the feelings we can think of. Now, staying together on the same island, they had a great time with each other. Each feeling played its role in an indefatigably glib manner, never drifting from its own role.

It was just another pleasant morning sunrise that this island saw, when 'jealousy' was the first one to get ready, as it is jealous of everybody else, so wants to be first at everything. 'Care' was taking care of everything and everybody. 'Love' was loving everybody and spreading smiles. 'Hatred' was abusing everybody and hating everybody for unique reasons. 'Ego' was sitting in one corner not mingling with anybody, was in its own world, for it felt it was better than everybody else. Activity was normal as everyday, Until 'panic' alarmed everybody by jumping around the entire island, and screaming - "Tsunami" " Tsunami" ... !!!

Love and Care took notice of this and immediately arranged for boats to travel to the next island. They sent everybody on them. Jealousy was the first one to get in, while hatred was still hating this happening. But things went on, everybody was busy saving their lives, While love and care were sending everybody.

What nobody took notice, but 'love' did take notice, was someone, sitting in one corner, not sitting into any of the boats. 'Love' reached out to him, to see who he was, it was 'EGO'. 'Love' said, "my dear friend come with me, else you will die here." After all, it was 'ego'. It kept refusing, while love kept forcing him to come along. 'Ego' kept rejecting.

'Care' tied the boat to the shore, waiting for these two to come. Unfortunately, 'careless' was on the same boat, it broke the string, that tied the boat to the shore. 'Love' did not get scared, it still loved careless, while it kept forcing the 'ego' to still come along.

The last boat left from there, Tsunami arrived, taking away the two lives on the Island.

MORAL OF THE STORY: "EGO" always drowns, but don’t forget it takes LOVE alongwith it. Wherever 'EGO' exists Love always gets killed.

I have personnally seen many people who have put their life and carreer in a great difficulty because of their ego. No people even wants to talk to them. There are very few people in this earth who submerged their ego and listen to them. Every day we come across many people who have this tendency. They this that they are the superior and right, But they don't know that they are not loved by anyone by heart.

So my dear friends, lets submerge our ego, as far as possible and start enjoying a much better life. For, ego kills love along with itself. Every relation starts looking more beautiful, when EGO gets eliminated. Let’s make efforts to kill that element in us.

I hope you found this blog helpful, promote it to all your friends, I am sure its going to eliminate a lot of ego from this beautiful planet earth.

EGO - Eliminates Growing Opportunities.

LOVE - Life Opens Various Exceptions. (Exceptionally amazing things start happening)

Technology

The time is ticking in the direction, it started long ago. India got its independence long ago, about 60 years ago, in 1947. Ever since then lots of things have changed in our country. Only thing that has not changed is the status of the country - It is still 'developing'. My father got his one mark and I got mine for answering this fill in the blank - "India is _______ Country". I just hope when my son/daughter writes - "developing", they lose their one mark. A father wanting his kids to lose marks? I wish this came true. Would be the wish of all of us reading this article right now :-)

Internet started about 20 years ago, it celebrated its 20th birthday on 13th Of March 2009. Computers came into existence about a few decades ago. America/Japan or other developed countries are at peaks in using computers and technology for their progress. India truly lacks that.

My dear friends, Just try picturing this on your mind, When one fellow indian 'A' of our country is talking about tweeting/blogging/cloud computing etc. The other fellow indian 'B' does not even know what a computer is. The irony of the situation is 'B' form about 93.88% of our country's population. If you visit any developed country - they talk about more than 60-70% computer literacy in their countries.

In India, technology has grown very rapidly after the computer and mobile technology came mainly in the last 5 years. Before that mobile and computers were deemed as luxurious items and people who used to afford are considered as rich persons. But today these two luxurious items have become a necessity in the daily life of the common man also. People who are below the poverty line are also using it directly or indirectly.

It is true that people is using technology, but only 10% using it to their maximum. The technology is growing at a pace, that in few years from now, it would be difficult for the computer aware (who are not greatly aware) people itself to catch up with the progress. Imagine our fellow indian, then, just getting to know about computers. Millions of Fashions would have come and gone on the internet, and exactly when our fellow indian would be feeling like an alien and out of place with all these things.

Today, using the mobiles we not only get in touch with our friends and relatives but also can do a lot of things including chat, photography, entertainment, using our mobiles as palmtops, etc. Similar is the case with the computers, which has also come a great distance to help the people and made them save time by the use of internet and online services. But more us yet to come, and if we look around, how many of them are using all these features?

If the gap between A & B, is not bridged up in the next five years, It will be a near to impossible task to push the country to greater heights, for advancement of technology and progress of internet are faster than speed of light right now. It already requires drastic steps to push the computer literacy higher.
Because if it not happen then, it is not far enough when everything and anything we will use would be running on technology. In school notebooks will be replaced by pc notebooks and blackboard will be replaced by 3D boards (used in educomp). Then what will the parents do, if they are not computer aware?
Even today most forms are available and filled online. And important exams like CAT & CBSE are trying to start online examinations also. Not very far when all the exams will be conducted online.

A big point to think if the technology continues to grow at the same pace then what will happen after 10 years. How will the people, mainly Common Man who are not computer aware interact with it?

What will happen to them who thinks and says that computer is a nuisence and not for them and they can live without it?

Will the Darwin's law of 'survival of the fittest' will come into force?

THINK.....

Ideology of a man.

Ideology of a man is the mirror of his mind and his life. An ideology is a set of aims and ideas that directs one's goals, expectations, and actions.
I have seen many people, mainly in India, whose ideology in life is very difficult to understand. Some of them are as under.

I am talking specially about the parents, who pressures their child to become they want him/her to be in their life. This is an ideology I simply can't understand still today. If you notice these days, many headlines of newspaples and television news flashing of school children committing suicide. It is clearly seen that the graph of children committing suicide has increasingly gone up. Has there any other ideas to make these parents understand ?

Another ideology of the parents is about the marriage of their children, specially of the son. I've witnessed many people, including some of my friends also, whose parents give their marriage before their silver jublee in life, even if they are not earning. This ideology is also not understandable to me.

Another thing which many of my friends will agree with me that most people in India fears to do some new thing in life. Very clearly they don't want to take risk in their life, and want to play for their life on backfoot. They mainly want some another person to do that work first and if he/she comes out safe then they will try to do the work. Why people not daring to take some risk (in positive move) in their life, which could makeit better? In other words why they don't test/challenge their luck ?

Embrace Mistakes and never repeat them.

Every people in his life,sometimes or the another have done some mistakes. "Making mistakes is not a crime." Many people project making mistakes as a crime. There is difference between crime and mistake. An unintentional doing which yields wrong results than expected is called a Mistake. While people confuse it for a intentional doing and build guilt over it. Crime is against laws & in most cases an intended action. An unintended crime is still a crime, but out of a mistake.
Life does not gives us a eraser, if it would have given one then we would have erased our mistakes done.

"Do not build guilt from your mistakes, build your foundations". Every mistake has a lesson to learn, of how not to do something. It is feedback system of the universe to teach us lessons, make an error correction inside us, and get us closer and closer to the unattainable perfection.

Most of us either ignore/deny the mistake or blame the mistake on somebody/something else. This is the mistake we do with the mistake. The roots of this action of ours are in our childhood. When being right always was what we learnt. This lesson of being right always is totally against real life, and can lead to the three mistakes we do with the mistake. We are always told to answer the questions rightly, do the right things and least allowed to experiment. Hence the efforts to be right always and hence the fear of trying new things and the result is few entrepreneurs in the world.

"A successful entrepreneur is nothing but a cluster of mistakes connected one after the other from the point of start to point of success, with lessons at every node of mistake."

So my dear readers ensure that next time you make a mistake, immediately accept it and grab the lesson it has to teach, and resolute never to repeat it again. Your journey of success will get shortened by thousands of miles with this one attitude.

Never say - "oops! I wish i would not have done that mistake."

Instead Say - "thank god this happened, it taught me the most important lesson. I shall never repeat this again, and shall help all my subordinates anticipate this."

Accept mistakes, learn from them, build great foundations and hence great structures of success above them. I hope this was helpful to all you readers.

Proud to be a Bengali

I think, in India inspite of there are many cultures, the Bengalis are the most sweetest, coolest and the most traditionalists of them all. Since time memorial, the culmination of the varied cultures along with Bengalis and Bengal's very own evergrowing richness has given birth to a unique Bengali culture which can be identified by its colourful & significant contribution to all epochs of all traditional & modern society. Bengal has always held an attraction for the outsiders since the historic times. The land of the fertile soil steeped in culture and tradition drew most of them to Bengal's heart. Bengal's mysticism coupled with its intoxicating charm; Bengal's throbbing heart and its pulsating life has a unique flavour.
"Our pride, our hope, O our language Bengali." The true Bengalis all over the world are very much proud of their language. Culture to the Bengali community is as valuable as air & water to human beings. It is said that, "What Bengalis and Bengal thinks today, the rest of the India thinks tomorrow."
The Bengali people are perhaps the greatest food lovers in the Indian subcontinent. A leisurely meal of many items which requires long hours of labour and ingenuity in the kitchen has long been a major part of Bengali culture. Bengali crusine takes in the five basic tastes of astringent, bitter, salt, sour and above all sweet. Bengalis are infectiously passionate about many things - especially for Fish, Mishti Doi and Rossogolla. It is also said that nothing goes waste in a Bengali kitchen.
Another thing that is recognised with the Bengalis is the greatest social and & religious event of the Bengalis -Durga Puja. It is extimated that nerly half of the clothings of the Bengalis are during these few days. In these few days Bengalis forgot everything about the rest of the world and filled with ceaseless activity - social, cultural and religious. The beating of the Dhaaki and the Kanshor Ghonta, meeting with the old friends gives a immense pleasure to the minds and hearts of the Bengalis.

Bangali means................Kolkata.
Bangali means................Football.
Bangali means................Howrah Bridge
Bangali means................Rabindro Sangeet.
Bangali means....today..... also..........our own Dada, Sourav Ganguly, which makes a Bengali proud.

There are many more things to write and mention about the Bengalis, that makes me proud to be a Bengali.
Can you give any 2 reasons that makes a Bengali so special and so unique .............. Give your comments.

The Government Policies

When the election comes and we vote then we think that whosoever comes to the power should make some helpful and strong policies for the countrymen. The Indian Government, at all levels, announces Welfare Schemes for a cross section of the society from time to time. These Schemes could be either Central, State specific or a Joint collaboration between the Centre and the States. Ther are many policies and schemes have been introduced to the people for their help and easy disposal of their problems and complaints. One of them is the Right to Information Act, 2005 which helps people to query about anything before the Govertment offices, helping them to answer the queries positively by the Public Information Officer in due dates, otherwise a penalty will be posed on the respectice office of official.

Many other helpful policies like this have also been introduced to help people. One very new one is the Unique ID system. But yesterday, a new idea on policy for education was given by the HR minister. The idea was to eradicate the Board exams of 10th and 12th, and a public exam for everyone for the next higher studies. I also think about the 10th Board exam is unnessary, as the marksheet is not being used anywhere except for the Date of Birth. Next as the years are passing, the course is becoming more and more difficult for the students as more and more pressure is created by the parents to bring more marks, resulting in which failing students at a very young age, nowadays, are commiting suicide. Secondly, according to me, apart from the ICSE and CBSE boards, all the state boards should be merged to one board, which contain the same syllabus and hence giving the at par oppurtunities to all the students of the country. Students should also be given the practical knowledge about the subjects and see that what the child is learning about the subjects (besides just completing the syllabus of the course). There should be a board where there is all the subjects should be studied and the students should (from Class 1) be given the option to opt any 4 subjects of their own (excluding the English, Hindi,as it is the National language & the regional language of the state). This will make a child to focus on the subjects which will help them in their long term career goal and ambition in life.
Next, all the corruption occurs in education system is during and in the exam of the education pattern. So it is necessary to impose one Central Education governing body, which takes control and operates the education system throughout the country, which will surely lessen the corruption in the education system.
It is a very long term and also difficult task to make an education system as I have stated. But I still think that this is possible, to make all the children in our country to become literate (by giving free and cumpulsary primary education to all, like the Uniue ID which is compulsary) and also, a strong and one education system should be imposed all over the country. Please feel free to gice a comment on the ideas about the education I have stated.

Learn to say 'NO'. But don't become a 'NO'MAN

In our life there are many times when we face some situation where in we have to accept or give consent in Yes or No. But as I do, most of the people are also try not to say NO to others feeling, as what the other people will mind. Which result saying in YES. It’s extremely important to learn to say 'NO'. Most of us give consent to innumerous things in our day to day life, in professional front or on personal front, though deep down we would want to disagree strongly. Its always better to understand that a straight No is less painful than a dry yes. Most of us are caught being unproductive on professional front or less enthusiastic on the personal front, in many things we do, for, when the consent is surfacial and deep inside there is "NO".Hence in simple words : "Don't say yes, when you want to say "NO"". The statement in quotes is also the name of the famous book by Herbert Fensterheim. Hence this blog may only contain the summary of what wisdom that book has in store. But taking this tip to extremes would prove to be harmful. Nobdoy loves a NOMAN. Hence if you are always having a NO for everything or if thats the first thing flowing out or a dry yes is always something that you have put forth, your admirers may be nil, at the same time, people who would'nt want you around, may be high. Its great to be a YESMAN in a team. But, do not forget when you are under real contraints, where it is impossible for you to agree, follow the thumbrule : "Dont say YES when you want to say NO". Let either, come after a good thought process. Intelligence and presence of mind always take sometime before they give their opinion through your mouth. So give them their share of time, and let them do the job for you. Most people end up in problems and getting locked up with things, which they are not passionate about, or they lose their time at unproductive things, because they could not slip in a NO at the right time. So, dear friends saying "NO" is not a crime, though being a NOMAN is one. So ensure you avoid deadlocks in your life, getting stuck in unproductive things, by just saying NO to them.
Its very difficult for people like me to say NO to anyone straightaway (almost impossible), however difficult the work may be, who wants to help people in whatever possible way we can. But following this article it seems that it is sometimes correct to say NO to anyone, other than not able to do the work in time taking our own responsibility (where the people have a tendency to forget and relax after giving the work to someone else).
So in our life if we want it to be a better one then Don't Say Yes When You Want to Say No, But afterall don't become a NOMAN at all.

Important things in life- Managing our expences

As I have earlier said in one of my previous post that it was during the last 4-5 years that I have known how to face the world and also how to manage a family (which I think I have done to a great extent). This is managing and planning accordingly that all the important purposes in the life never gets halted and the wheels of the family keeps on moving smoothly. This needs the cooperation of the whole family and the members. I have learnt these things from the stories, accounts, diaries and old documents of my grandfather, who besides working in a small private company from the age of 20, managed his expences and savings to build a house of his own, with the cooperation of my grandmother, both sacrificed many things of their life to give his son and the next generation a somewhat good life than them.

One main thing to do to manage a house or family needs is a good management policy for the home budget and to spend accordingly, saving as much you need, keeping in mind the needs of the family and the members in the next 5 to 10 years and plan accordingly.

I have mainly followed this policy and have seen that it works. Also there is a saying that "What good or bad we have done in our past is the result we are reaping today. And what we will do (correct or wrong) today, will affect in our future." So, if we save and manage in the right way today, that will going to help us in the coming years.

Management is not only needed in big offices or companies only, it is needed in the smallest of the houses also, even for whom who just earns Rs. 100/-. Because I have seen many people who nevers plan or manage their money or anything and is much spendthrift, they time of crises, get tensed and worried and finally have to borrow money from their friends and relatives, and sometimes from money lenders who charge them a heave interest for that.

So, my thought is that whatever we are earning today must be spend in the right way (not be spendthreft) , to control our expences, and also save a little amount in our own way whichever we think (from man to man) will be better for us, that could help our family in time of problem or urjency.

My dreams in life

Since my childhood, I have many dreams like all people had in their life. But have not seen any of my so called big dreams fulfilled, however, some of my smaller dreams have been fulfilled, better late than never. For this I thank God for hearing my words and fulfilling my dreams.
In this phase of my life I have 2 of my very big dreams, which I very much need the help of my God for fulfilling those dreams. The two big dreams are (1)To get married to my dream girl and (2) To build a house of my own money, with my & my spouse's ideas (MY DREAM HOUSE IN MY DREAM CITY - KOLKATA).
These are my dreams which I would like to fulfill in my life, and if these get fulfilled then all the dreams that I have seen and that have not get fulfilled will be nullified. I would like my first dream to be fulfilled in my coming few years and the next big one in the next 10 to 20 years of my coming life.
Let's see and wishing that God will help me in completing and fulfilling my these 2 dreams which I have got now in my mind.

The most tensed days of my life

From my early childhood , I have been a guy who becomes very tensed whenever any problems arises, or you can say a problem which had not arrived yet but just thinking of it in advance.
In my life, the most tensed days of my life were the days when I gave my final exams and the time when we awaits the results to be out. Although during my junior school I was a brilliant student, I was not as worried as I was during my next phase of my schooling (Senior school). I kept deteiorating in my studies and was in a very poor condition by the time I was in my 10th, I had done very badly in my prelims. After giving the Board exams I was more restless and daily see what I have done in my paper and counting that whether I will get passing marks or not. ON the result day I was not aware that the reselt has been declared, when my father had gone to office and returned back and said that the result was out and Asking what I have done in my exams. I got much frightened. Then he said that I have passed , then only I become normal. Next was When I gave my 12th, it was the same things I was doing that I have done before, in my 10th results. This time also I was not aware that the results was out. This time one of my best friend called me and said that I have got 75% marks. I cannot believe what he said because I only know what I have done in my exams. I with my father, then, went to school that whether my friend had seen the result of the boy sitting before me as he was a topper of our school. Then after seeing result that I have got pass (not with 75%) but with good markd than I have thought. These were the most testing times of my life.

My most difficult time of my life

There is some time in everyone's life when he would call it the most difficult time of his life.
I too have the most difficult time of my life when I lost my father unexpetedly and untimely. It was in August 2004 when this tragic incident happened with us which had created a large vaccum in our family, especially in my & my sister's life (even felt today by us). That night was the worst night of my life where my father was lying dead and I could not got a moment to sit and cry beside him, because if I cry how could I console my family. So I made myself strong (which I was not from the inside) and consoled my family. We were not at all ready for this, and it was in just in a matter few minutes that our whole world was shattered in a darkness, where many discission were to take and, and for every discission there were many advices (correct and wrong), from which we have to take the right discission, otherwise the future would not be as we expect.
I thank to my (the then) legal advisor who helped us in that time to overcome the then major problem of our family.
But at that time, I was the only male member of my family and so all the responsibilities automatically came upon my shoulders (as before that I was not at all serious about my life and my future and always escape from the responsibilities that were given to me), and so thereon I have to shoulder the responsibilities of my family, and take the right and correct discissions for them. Truely, in the beginning I faced many difficulties in handling the then problems and taking the correct discissions, but as it is a saying that "where there is a way there is a will". I steadied myself and along with my sister studied the problems which came in our family in detail and took the correct discission for it as there was nobody else to help us. But slowly and gradually we paved our way from that difficult time of life but the loss (of my father) is still felt by us very much.
Sorry........ for making you bored, by telling my most worst days of my life........but as I did not tell it to anyone , so I am writing it down.....about as I have gone through that time and faced it..............

What I mean by getting the right knowledge

In every man's life there is a stage when he is supposed to go to school and earn knowledge. According to the Vedas also, in a man's life first 25 years of life is only for studing. Parents also says that to earn knowledge and to got success in life everyone has to go to school. I also have done that for the last 23 years, but if I go through my life and the phase after my school (Specially the last 4 years), I feel that the knowledge which I gained from the outside world is much more than those I got in the school or college. I also feel that the book knowledge is necessary but it is not at all efficient for anyone. The main knowledge one can get is by experiencing and facing the world by its own and taking his dissicions by its own in the time of any problem. Because I think practical knowledge in life is always important than any other knowledge, and the practical knowledge in life is the most important of all. It is also important for get into any debate which we face everyday in some or the other matter (sometimes correct and sometimes unnecessary). We should give any advice to others if we have the experience of our own. We should also have some main key knowledge in all the fields which is concerned with us or not, as it not have to seem to concern with us today but if we have some key knowledge of the subject it would help us later in the life if we face it. Not only having the knowledge in every matter will help but also we have to update ourself with the surroundings and the matter, otherwise inspite of having the knowledge, we will not be updated with the latest facts with the subject ( As today in every field there is a very fast change everywhere)
Today, I thank God and Ebiz for this practical knowledge which had made me a complete man to face the world, and also helped me in succeed in life and to take the right discisions not only for me but for many others too...... Sometimes, when I sit alone I think that what would be my life be if I had not got the opportunity(via EBIZ) to interact with the 1000's of type of people and their mindset over any issue and life.
I have tried a little to give my feelings on having the practical knowledge in life..........which I think will help everybody if they understand it clearly and correctly.

The things which make me regret

In our life there are many things which we do, knowingly or unknowingly, for which we regret later in the life. But sometimes we regret on those things for which we have not done in our life. I feel there is only one life to live and the days which have gone by will never come back to us in this life, so we should enjoy each & every moent of the life to the fullest. In our every phase of life there are many things to do, and which should be done in that phase of life only. In my life also there are many such things happened which I haven't done during that phase of my life which have passed away. One of the thing is that I haven't done is I am a very shy person and have not approached or talked to any girl of my own, and so never have a girlfriend in my life for which I regret the most. Many of my friends who have one or more than one girlfriends always make fun of me by talking of their girlfriends and their relationships. I sometimes feel very frustated by their words, but hold my emotions by just diverting of the topic.

Sometimes I think that doing these type of affairs are a very challenging and interesting thing but sometimes it feel like very boring or time consuming, which affect our career(or it is just a way in which I could console myself).

But seriously when I think that why I don't have a girlfriend, then I have the answer that I have nothing that a girl wants in his boyfriend, i.e. good looks, personality, and above all, money to impress someone.
Although I regret it very much, but now, in my present phase of my life I barely have time to impress any girl to be my girlfriend, as I am now serious with my studies and career, and later on think of any girl after achieving any goals, as I now don't want to regret for anything else in my life.