Some Social Problems of Love Life in India

In the recent time there are some news and views which have led me to write this blog. Folks this blog is for those who fall in love and are hurt feeling that they have lost their love in this life.

I have heard many stories and met some friends of mine, who tell me that they are at a stand point in their life where they had to choose between their love and her parents. Meaning that they had to surrender to their parents to get themself an arranged marriage. The irony of the indian traditional societal daughter or a son is that they fall in love, without feeling the boundaries of societies, but when the time comes where the crucial decision needs to be made, most of them surrender in front of the blackmailing talks of family members and relatives about their reputation if the marriage were to be intercaste.

And in some cases it is still a hit on the reputation even if its a love marriage, depending on the constraints of the society. The child is not happy marrying the person who is selected for him/her, which is at the compromise of his/her love, and person who gets wed with him/her, is also not happy as he/she is always knowing that his/her partner (the one who lost his/her love) is always looking for the old partner in the new face.

Eventually after a spell of a few years the person gets convinced that you dont always get what you want out life and you need to love what you get - and that becomes the thumbrule. For some, thumbrules are not formed and they continue to live in the agony of loss of love...

Some of them elope and thats considered a sin. If the marriage was allowed which would have only yielded a happy couple, while the families could be adjusting with each other, it would have made so many things simpler. This simple solution is thought over a million times and rejected to yield a whole new world of impossiblites for the ones who fell in love. The fight then begins.

These individuals who would have fallen prey to this societal constraints decide to ensure that their kids won't to have go through the trauma. While they realise when eventually the time comes for the marriage of their kids, they would have also got so woven into the cloth of the socitey that they are ones who impose conditions again. The circle hence repeats again..

This is what is described as THE VISCIOUS CIRCLE OF LIFE.

Someon, somewhere in this tree needs to initiate a route out of this circle to ensure a whole new dimension gets added to the way the tree then grows.

Are you a part of the same circle? Have you fallen in love? Does this apply to you? Do comment.....

Cherishing the old days together with friends

Today while I was going through the old albums and photos of my friends and relatives, I thought what a nice time was that (old days) when we have nothing to worry and would have spend and enjoy most of the time together. But as time has passed, today it is very difficult to enjoy that time, only when we get in contact with those old mates through a call, we would cherish those funny and really good moments and miss those good times we spend together. Sometimes it feels that it would have been nice if the time stops there, but unfortunately it would not to be happen.

Today, I find it very diffucult to be in touch with my old friends as everyone is busy in building his carreer and his life. The only way to be in touch is the mobile,or by emails,etc. thanks to the technology. What would have happen if we have born one generation back, then what were the possibilities of contacting with the friends who are far from our city?

Inspite of the technology, I find sometimes difficult to contact with them, together. It has been a long time when all of my friends has sat together and have cherished those happy and funny days together, which have gone by and are now just in our memories.

I pray to God to give some moment when we can be together and again live those childhood days. Hoping that it will be soon..............