Some Social Problems of Love Life in India

In the recent time there are some news and views which have led me to write this blog. Folks this blog is for those who fall in love and are hurt feeling that they have lost their love in this life.

I have heard many stories and met some friends of mine, who tell me that they are at a stand point in their life where they had to choose between their love and her parents. Meaning that they had to surrender to their parents to get themself an arranged marriage. The irony of the indian traditional societal daughter or a son is that they fall in love, without feeling the boundaries of societies, but when the time comes where the crucial decision needs to be made, most of them surrender in front of the blackmailing talks of family members and relatives about their reputation if the marriage were to be intercaste.

And in some cases it is still a hit on the reputation even if its a love marriage, depending on the constraints of the society. The child is not happy marrying the person who is selected for him/her, which is at the compromise of his/her love, and person who gets wed with him/her, is also not happy as he/she is always knowing that his/her partner (the one who lost his/her love) is always looking for the old partner in the new face.

Eventually after a spell of a few years the person gets convinced that you dont always get what you want out life and you need to love what you get - and that becomes the thumbrule. For some, thumbrules are not formed and they continue to live in the agony of loss of love...

Some of them elope and thats considered a sin. If the marriage was allowed which would have only yielded a happy couple, while the families could be adjusting with each other, it would have made so many things simpler. This simple solution is thought over a million times and rejected to yield a whole new world of impossiblites for the ones who fell in love. The fight then begins.

These individuals who would have fallen prey to this societal constraints decide to ensure that their kids won't to have go through the trauma. While they realise when eventually the time comes for the marriage of their kids, they would have also got so woven into the cloth of the socitey that they are ones who impose conditions again. The circle hence repeats again..

This is what is described as THE VISCIOUS CIRCLE OF LIFE.

Someon, somewhere in this tree needs to initiate a route out of this circle to ensure a whole new dimension gets added to the way the tree then grows.

Are you a part of the same circle? Have you fallen in love? Does this apply to you? Do comment.....

Cherishing the old days together with friends

Today while I was going through the old albums and photos of my friends and relatives, I thought what a nice time was that (old days) when we have nothing to worry and would have spend and enjoy most of the time together. But as time has passed, today it is very difficult to enjoy that time, only when we get in contact with those old mates through a call, we would cherish those funny and really good moments and miss those good times we spend together. Sometimes it feels that it would have been nice if the time stops there, but unfortunately it would not to be happen.

Today, I find it very diffucult to be in touch with my old friends as everyone is busy in building his carreer and his life. The only way to be in touch is the mobile,or by emails,etc. thanks to the technology. What would have happen if we have born one generation back, then what were the possibilities of contacting with the friends who are far from our city?

Inspite of the technology, I find sometimes difficult to contact with them, together. It has been a long time when all of my friends has sat together and have cherished those happy and funny days together, which have gone by and are now just in our memories.

I pray to God to give some moment when we can be together and again live those childhood days. Hoping that it will be soon..............

Power of Positive Attitude

During my working with the Ebiz.com Pvt. Ltd., Although I haven't gain anything from it in terms of success, but one thing I have learnt from it is the positive attitute and the mindset of the people. This positive attitud3e has helped me in my life in what I am today.

Positive attitude helps to cope more easily with the daily affairs of life. It brings optimism into your life, and makes it easier to avoid worry and negative thinking. If you adopt it as a way of life, it will bring constructive changes into your life, and makes them happier, brighter and more successful. With a positive attitude you see the bright side of life, become optimistic and expect the best to happen. It is certainly a state of mind that is well worth developing and strengthening.
A positive attitude makes a great change in my life. It also taught me to control my anger and to look to the positive attitude which lead me to happiness and success.

A positive attitude leads to happiness and success and can change your whole life. If you look at the bright side of life, your whole life becomes filled with light. This light affects not only you and the way you look at the world, but also your whole environment and the people around you. If it is strong enough, it becomes contagious.

Negative attitude says: you cannot achieve success.
Positive attitude says: You can achieve success.

If you have been exhibiting a negative attitude and expecting failure and difficulties, it is now the time to change the way you think. It is time to get rid of negative thoughts and behavior and lead a happy and successful life. Why not start today? If you have tried and failed, it only means that you have not tried enough.

Positive thinking is a mental attitude that admits into the mind thoughts, words and images that are conductive to growth, expansion and success. It is a mental attitude that expects good and favorable results. A positive mind anticipates happiness, joy, health and a successful outcome of every situation and action. Whatever the mind expects, it finds.

Not everyone accepts or believes in positive thinking. Some consider the subject as just nonsense, and others scoff at people who believe and accept it. Among the people who accept it, not many know how to use it effectively to get results. Yet, it seems that many are becoming attracted to this subject, as evidenced by the many books, lectures and courses about it. This is a subject that is gaining popularity.

It is quite common to hear people say: "Think positive!", to someone who feels down and worried. Most people do not take these words seriously, as they do not know what they really mean, or do not consider them as useful and effective. How many people do you know, who stop to think what the power of positive thinking means?

But believe me, if you have a positive attitude in your life and try to achieve what you want then it is easily possible that you will succeed in your live. Positive attitude can do miracles in anyone's life.....

Bengali About To Be Announced The Sweetest Language In The World?

“Bengali is the world’s sweetest language” and “Bengali, the world’s Sweetest Language” are the two headlines you must have come across over the last two days of your web surfing and you could not stop thinking, really? Well, I am not here to tell you once again that Bengali is the world’s sweetest language. If you are a Bengali, chances are that you have already received tweets, SMSs or Orkut/Facebook updates proclaiming that Bengali (বাংলা) has been declared the sweetest language in the world.

Here is the SMS that I received:

130 crores people in the world sing their national anthem in Bengali language.
125 crores in Chineese language and 94 crores in English.
BENGALI is on top not only because yesterday UNESCO declared that Bengali is the sweetest language of the world (2nd and 3rd sweetest being Spanish and Dutch).
So we should feel proud for our language.
Send this SMS to all your friends…
Feel proud to be a BENGALI......



Religious and regional jingoism aside, if true, this is indeed reason to celebrate for all bongs across the world. The online poll in question was conducted by UNESCO a couple of months back. However, I couldn’t find any official word on this matter. According to TOI, the official announcement may come on Rabindranath Tagore’s (the first Asian Nobel laureate) 150th birth anniversary in May (পঁচিশে বৈশাখ ).

Bengali is one of the major languages of India, and the main language in the state of West Bengal in eastern India. It is the mother tongue of the Bengali community of India, i.e. the community to which I belong.

Bengali is also spoken in the beautiful country of Bangladesh, a neighbouring country of India. In fact, in Bangladesh Bengali is virtually the sole spoken language, and enjoys the status of the National Language.

I have always been so proud that I have such a sweet as well as rich language as my mother language. And today that pride got a huge booster.

However, my pride in and love for my language will never make me look down upon any other language of this world. Rather, I have (and will always have) a huge respect for every spoken language in this world, as each of them has enriched the human civilization in one way or the other.

PROUD TO BE A BENGALI...............

5 year plan of the Indians

I just came across this data, while surfing, that Indian 11th 5 year plan, has a large amount of data, cut, copy and paste from the first one. I really wonder if laying 5 year plans for a country is going to help (it definitely will, but is there a better alternative), for, when I have been for innumerous talks, and when i questioned people as to their plans are the next 5 years,or just say for the next 3 years, More than 99% of them sit blank.

My dear friends, entire youth fraternity in colleges of this century, is not having a plan of action for themself for the next 5 years, what do we speak about having a 5year plan for the country. I do not say, 5 year plan for a country should not be there. It does help infrastructure, technology and upliftment of places and people. But, more importantly, my stress is on the fact that, if there is 35% youth (100% of future of our country) population in our country,and if they have a plan of action, with each one deciding plan of action for their studies sector, profession sector, contribution to society sector, charity sector etc. Trust me! its not my intuition alone that speaks at this moment, but logical thought process is also uniting with this thought, that our country will develop much sooner and be much more organised in every sense.

I totally agree, and I am not a paranoid who says 5 year exact plan is easy to layout. But lets atleast set it for the next couple of years. We stop planning, because of the no. of failures of our plans we would have gone through during our school days in putting down our time tables and not being able to keep up to it. Lets resolve atleast at this point, that we (the readers of this blog and people who will get to know about this through you as you would promote this to them) shall have a plan of action for different sectors and stick to it, atleast for the next two years.

Majority Youth of india is totally going random. Most youth have this answer when i ask them : "So what are you planning for future?". The answer is :"I am yet to plan". or "I am not sure". Or "let me see". or "I have still not given a thought". My dear friend you are already 20-25 years old and you have still not given a thought. Kudos to people who have an action plan. But others, its time to open your eyes. Just see the youth of the countries of the east. They think for their future beforehand, when they are in their school, and that is why they are much progressed and developed than us. Think.........

My simplest statement/slogan/quote that would sum up everything -
"If the people of country have a plan for the next 5 years, country is planned for next 5 years". Any other plan is going to be a bonus.

And if we plan and think properly for our future, then it will be much easy to handle the problems that will come in our way. This will also make our life more easy and happy. So Just try to plan for the future from today only. Make a 5 or say 3 year plan for yourself.

Life after school and college days

Today, when I was coming in front of my old school, where there was the "Result declaration day" today. On seeing this, my mind went back to my old days when we used to be very happy and tense also on the days of our final result daclaration. Tension of marks got and excitement of promotion to the new class.

For many college students, graduation and thereafter is the worst time of your twenties. You trade late night parties for early morning commutes and mom and dad’s monthly allowance is, well, gone. But growing up doesn’t have to be miserable and mundane; it can actually be rewarding and fun. Nine long years have passed since I have left the school, but it seems to be just of yesterday. I also have gone through this time of my life where everything I used to do or try becomes very difficult for me. Sometimes life tests us, our confidence and ability. This is the time of our life when we have to give these tests to gain confidence in life. And the result of these tests which life takes, gives us the oppurtunity to get the next promotion in life to the next level.

But after this great phase of college also goes by and after that the busy schedule of college timings, class works, exams and results is no more. Spending most of the time with parents, new releases, late night roaming, computer games, parties, and sports channels make the daily routine. This leisure reminds me of “An idle man’s mind is a devil’s workshop”. Anything not like devil and Devine, but an idle brain makes ourselves get rejuvenated and brings our hidden thoughts and interests into light. Only when the mind is still and there is no anticipation creation comes. As long as you are looking forward to an experience, you are pursuing an achievement.

If we look around, and search for our old collegues and friends,the city seems deserted of them as they are wandering of obvious reasons. Most of them have already joined, many are in a vacation, and some are waiting for the call from the company and to my sorrow few are still searching and they were in a hunt.” A hunt for a purpose, A hunt for knowledge, A hunt for the stomach, A hunt for a career and a hunt for a life”. At times my inner voices used to ask me “Had I become lonely and alone?”. With a bit of pain I answer by saying that my days were transformed from my long chats to limited, my friendly touches to mystic imaginations, my distant walks to a simple exercise, my longest rides to a few kilometers, my admission name into the alumina list and my text books to home decorators…………

A small sort of pain and unhappiness rouses in my humble heart after thinking all these things but it still could not prevent me from doing so. Mean while a phone call from a benevolent friend, SMS saying “I MISS U A LOT ” from a classmate, an E-MAIL from a much waited friend,a different news from the college ………makes things vivacious and lively and put me back into elegant school/college life.
Spending days with all these vulnerable memories and hoping for a bright future ahead with my new job……………. I put my hand on my naïve cheeks looking into the galaxy starting my imagination “WOW!!!!!!! HOW NICE THE COMING DAYS GONNA BE………..”

My feeling for the friends

Most people walk in and out of our life. But only True friends leave footprints in our heart.
Whether we realize it or not, everyone we know is very special to us.
When we look back on our younger years, we will remember the people who went to with us, the people who made us laugh, the people who hung out with us when nobody else would, and the people who made our lives much better simply by being a part of it.
There may be somebody who is thinking about you RIGHT NOW and wishing that you were around. That's the wonderful thing about friendship-you always feel loved and cared about.
The most important thing to remember is... Always appreciate the friends that you have.
A fight may come and go very easily, but a friendship could last forever.
For every second spent in anger, a minute of happiness is wasted.

There are many people who comes in our entire life, but the one that left their footprints in our minds and hearts are the very special one.

They gave us some reason to laugh, cry, joy, and happiness. Friends are the only one whom we can share everything, as everything is not possible to share with our family also, but it can be done with the true friends, because they can read our minds and give us good decision in our life.

Childhood friends are forever! Examples of such friendships are galore where a childhood friend has forsaken everything for his friend. Such friendships never blossom as we mature and grow old. The friendship that develops between two friends in school or through living in the same locality, often goes on to become everlasting and is never broken by any outside force. I am still in touch with my childhood friend from school and he is like a pillar of support to me. The bond that forms between two childhood friends is unbreakable. Such friendships are intuitive, where one friend understands the mind of the other.

Arrording to Lord Buddha on friendship, "A true friend helps us when we're in need. They protect us. A good friend is a refuge in life. A friend who is constantly there no matter we're facing happiness or sorrow or trouble in our lives. We share secrets in friendship and the friend will not betray our secrets - in fact, good friends warn us when we're treading on dangerous roads. This sort of a friend is a gift."

So, always trust your friend and never forget them as they are the one who will always be by your side till the entire life.

Ego Kills Love - So be a Egokiller

Ego Kills Love! Lets kill the EGO before it kills Love...!!!
A masterpiece story I came across, For those of you, who have already read this one, I am sure you will agree with me, that its worth reinforcing a thousand times. Its the story about the hypothetical island that existed, which was home for all different feelings that exist on the face of the earth today. Let me start in a classical story telling way "Once upon a time....

Once upon a time..., there was an island called FEELINGS ISLAND, which was home to all types of feelings. Joy, Love, Ego, care, Shame, Hatred, Magnanimity, generosity, kindness, shyness, audacity, disgust, frustration, jealousy, atheism etc. All the feelings we can think of. Now, staying together on the same island, they had a great time with each other. Each feeling played its role in an indefatigably glib manner, never drifting from its own role.

It was just another pleasant morning sunrise that this island saw, when 'jealousy' was the first one to get ready, as it is jealous of everybody else, so wants to be first at everything. 'Care' was taking care of everything and everybody. 'Love' was loving everybody and spreading smiles. 'Hatred' was abusing everybody and hating everybody for unique reasons. 'Ego' was sitting in one corner not mingling with anybody, was in its own world, for it felt it was better than everybody else. Activity was normal as everyday, Until 'panic' alarmed everybody by jumping around the entire island, and screaming - "Tsunami" " Tsunami" ... !!!

Love and Care took notice of this and immediately arranged for boats to travel to the next island. They sent everybody on them. Jealousy was the first one to get in, while hatred was still hating this happening. But things went on, everybody was busy saving their lives, While love and care were sending everybody.

What nobody took notice, but 'love' did take notice, was someone, sitting in one corner, not sitting into any of the boats. 'Love' reached out to him, to see who he was, it was 'EGO'. 'Love' said, "my dear friend come with me, else you will die here." After all, it was 'ego'. It kept refusing, while love kept forcing him to come along. 'Ego' kept rejecting.

'Care' tied the boat to the shore, waiting for these two to come. Unfortunately, 'careless' was on the same boat, it broke the string, that tied the boat to the shore. 'Love' did not get scared, it still loved careless, while it kept forcing the 'ego' to still come along.

The last boat left from there, Tsunami arrived, taking away the two lives on the Island.

MORAL OF THE STORY: "EGO" always drowns, but don’t forget it takes LOVE alongwith it. Wherever 'EGO' exists Love always gets killed.

I have personnally seen many people who have put their life and carreer in a great difficulty because of their ego. No people even wants to talk to them. There are very few people in this earth who submerged their ego and listen to them. Every day we come across many people who have this tendency. They this that they are the superior and right, But they don't know that they are not loved by anyone by heart.

So my dear friends, lets submerge our ego, as far as possible and start enjoying a much better life. For, ego kills love along with itself. Every relation starts looking more beautiful, when EGO gets eliminated. Let’s make efforts to kill that element in us.

I hope you found this blog helpful, promote it to all your friends, I am sure its going to eliminate a lot of ego from this beautiful planet earth.

EGO - Eliminates Growing Opportunities.

LOVE - Life Opens Various Exceptions. (Exceptionally amazing things start happening)

Technology

The time is ticking in the direction, it started long ago. India got its independence long ago, about 60 years ago, in 1947. Ever since then lots of things have changed in our country. Only thing that has not changed is the status of the country - It is still 'developing'. My father got his one mark and I got mine for answering this fill in the blank - "India is _______ Country". I just hope when my son/daughter writes - "developing", they lose their one mark. A father wanting his kids to lose marks? I wish this came true. Would be the wish of all of us reading this article right now :-)

Internet started about 20 years ago, it celebrated its 20th birthday on 13th Of March 2009. Computers came into existence about a few decades ago. America/Japan or other developed countries are at peaks in using computers and technology for their progress. India truly lacks that.

My dear friends, Just try picturing this on your mind, When one fellow indian 'A' of our country is talking about tweeting/blogging/cloud computing etc. The other fellow indian 'B' does not even know what a computer is. The irony of the situation is 'B' form about 93.88% of our country's population. If you visit any developed country - they talk about more than 60-70% computer literacy in their countries.

In India, technology has grown very rapidly after the computer and mobile technology came mainly in the last 5 years. Before that mobile and computers were deemed as luxurious items and people who used to afford are considered as rich persons. But today these two luxurious items have become a necessity in the daily life of the common man also. People who are below the poverty line are also using it directly or indirectly.

It is true that people is using technology, but only 10% using it to their maximum. The technology is growing at a pace, that in few years from now, it would be difficult for the computer aware (who are not greatly aware) people itself to catch up with the progress. Imagine our fellow indian, then, just getting to know about computers. Millions of Fashions would have come and gone on the internet, and exactly when our fellow indian would be feeling like an alien and out of place with all these things.

Today, using the mobiles we not only get in touch with our friends and relatives but also can do a lot of things including chat, photography, entertainment, using our mobiles as palmtops, etc. Similar is the case with the computers, which has also come a great distance to help the people and made them save time by the use of internet and online services. But more us yet to come, and if we look around, how many of them are using all these features?

If the gap between A & B, is not bridged up in the next five years, It will be a near to impossible task to push the country to greater heights, for advancement of technology and progress of internet are faster than speed of light right now. It already requires drastic steps to push the computer literacy higher.
Because if it not happen then, it is not far enough when everything and anything we will use would be running on technology. In school notebooks will be replaced by pc notebooks and blackboard will be replaced by 3D boards (used in educomp). Then what will the parents do, if they are not computer aware?
Even today most forms are available and filled online. And important exams like CAT & CBSE are trying to start online examinations also. Not very far when all the exams will be conducted online.

A big point to think if the technology continues to grow at the same pace then what will happen after 10 years. How will the people, mainly Common Man who are not computer aware interact with it?

What will happen to them who thinks and says that computer is a nuisence and not for them and they can live without it?

Will the Darwin's law of 'survival of the fittest' will come into force?

THINK.....

Ideology of a man.

Ideology of a man is the mirror of his mind and his life. An ideology is a set of aims and ideas that directs one's goals, expectations, and actions.
I have seen many people, mainly in India, whose ideology in life is very difficult to understand. Some of them are as under.

I am talking specially about the parents, who pressures their child to become they want him/her to be in their life. This is an ideology I simply can't understand still today. If you notice these days, many headlines of newspaples and television news flashing of school children committing suicide. It is clearly seen that the graph of children committing suicide has increasingly gone up. Has there any other ideas to make these parents understand ?

Another ideology of the parents is about the marriage of their children, specially of the son. I've witnessed many people, including some of my friends also, whose parents give their marriage before their silver jublee in life, even if they are not earning. This ideology is also not understandable to me.

Another thing which many of my friends will agree with me that most people in India fears to do some new thing in life. Very clearly they don't want to take risk in their life, and want to play for their life on backfoot. They mainly want some another person to do that work first and if he/she comes out safe then they will try to do the work. Why people not daring to take some risk (in positive move) in their life, which could makeit better? In other words why they don't test/challenge their luck ?